Many persons believe that they are not abused in a relationship because they have not been beaten or punched, but the sad truth is many are being abused daily and are unaware of it, because it is emotional and so the words spoken are excused and not seen as harmful until the damage is already done.
We were brought up with the saying “sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me” or the other prominent saying “Words are wind but blows are unkind” through experience, research and counselling I have come to realize that these sayings are false words do hurt and accomplish irreparable damage to ones emotions and psychological well-being.
List of the basic needs for any healthy relationship:
The need for freedom from labels which devalue you.
The need to be heard by the other and to be responded to with respect and acceptance
The need for good will from the others.
The need for emotional support.
The need to receive a sincere apology for any jokes or actions you find offensive.
The need to for freedom from accusation, interrogation and blame.
The need to have your own view, even if others have a different view.
The need to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real.
The need for encouragement.
The need for clear, honest and informative answers to questions about what affects you.
The need to live free from criticism and judgment.
The need to have your work and your interests respected.
The need for freedom from emotional and physical threat.
The need for freedom from angry outburst and rage.
The need to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.
The need to have your final decisions accepted.
The need for privacy at times.